Q: Guruji, I have a boss who is manipulative, unethical, and very difficult to work with. I am a dedicated employee but I am not able to work with my boss, what should I do?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Again I tell you, it is all about vibes. Have you noticed, for no reason, you feel aversion towards some people, and for no reason you feel pulled towards some people. It is our vibes that speak it is our vibes that changes the minds of people. It is through vibes that thoughts and emotions change. So you be strong. Also, the tougher the boss the more skilful you can become. It brings out skills in you which you did not see before. It is very easy to be direct, but to be able to have skill and convey what you really want to convey is more appreciable. So you can develop those skills.

Silence can bring skill in communication. Every person who gets angry has some justification for their anger. They think that they are correct. Do you see what I am saying? Behind anger is the demand for justice, and intolerance for injustice. So anger is good, it is essential, but only to wake you up. After that, the anger needs to be given a direction of creativity otherwise the same anger can burn you.

...Mūsų laikais visos visuomenės yra praradusios kryptį. Žmones nori pinigų ir patogumų, šiame, kituose gyvenimuose. Žmones žudosi ir žudo kitus, kad įgyvendintų savo svajonę. Kiekvienas laikosi savo nuomonės, o jos skiriasi, taigi, - neišvengiamos grumtynės. Tas pats vyksta tarp religijų, ir tarp valstybių, politinių partijų, vyro ir žmonos, tėvų ir vaikų. Netgi mūsų pačių burna kovoja su skrandžiu. Mano burna sako: noriu dar valgyti ir gerti. Bet skrandis prieštarauja: ne , ne! Taigi, net savyje negalime sukurti harmonijos, negalime sukurti vieni su kitais, su gyvūnais, su oru , vandeniu ir žeme. Jei taip tęsime ir toliau, greit atsiras daug kančių, daugybė žmonių mirs nuo karo, ligų, bado, vandens trūkumo, užteršto oro ir gamtos kataklizmų. Žmonės patys kuria pasaulį tokį. Tai neateina iš šalies. Priežastis ir pasekmė yra aiškios.
Jei norime visą tai pakeisti, privalome atbusti! Privalome atrasti savo tikrąją prigimtį, susigrąžinti tikrąjį žmogaus protą, padėti vieni kitiems, gamtai, visoms gyvoms būtybėms. Tokia yra tikroji žmonių užduotis.
Jei nori ją vykdyti, klausiu tavęs : kas esi? Jei atsakymas aiškus, vadinasi gyvenimas aiškus. Jei nežinai, tikiuosi, eini tik tiesiai - nežinau, kuris aiškus, kaip erdvė, bandai, bandai, bandai be perstojo dešimt tūkstančių metų, kol atskleisi savo tikrąją SAVASTĮ, TIESĄ, TEISINGĄ PASKIRTĮ IR IŠGELBĖSI VISAS GYVAS BŪTYBES IŠ KANČIŲ... Bo Haeng(Laiškai iš drakono kalnų)

Aš siūlyčiau filosofuoti globalinio atšilimo tema.
Labai madinga pastarąjį dešimtmetį.
Pažiūriu pro langą, tas "globalus atšilimas" į smegeninę lenda.

"Jei norime visą tai pakeisti, privalome atbusti! Privalome atrasti savo tikrąją prigimtį, susigrąžinti tikrąjį žmogaus protą, padėti vieni kitiems, gamtai, visoms gyvoms būtybėms. Tokia yra tikroji žmonių užduotis"

Kaip as is tikruju pavarges nuo situ idealizuotu nesamoniu. Ir vis tas pats sablonas - pirmoje puseje destomos realios ar menamos blogybes, antroje - mes turime daryti taip, mes turime atbusti and so on.. Ir vis kazkoks guru tarias zinas tikraja zmoniu uzduoti.

Kaip sake kazkada A. Tarkovskis interviu - jei pasaulis butu tobulas, kokia prasme butu gyvent ?

Jei zmonija kazkada susinaikins - reiskias taip ir turejo but. Laikas yra begalinis ir kitas gyvybes grudas kazkur gaus kita sansa pasireikst. Gal ir is dinozauru butu issivyste stai puikus intelektualus driezai. Isnyko - reikia del to seiletis ?

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....aaaa, eik ilsėtis. Vis tikrini ar aš pagaliau "atėjau į protą"...? Nė velnio....... mesk šitą reikalą. .....esu beviltiška, šiame gyvenime jau nebepasikeisiu.... Tad nesinervink, geriau tų postų nė neskaitinėk. Sveikata brangiau.

Q: Gurudev, success to this world means money, power and fame. How does one know if we are successful? Is there any measure?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: To me, the sign of success is a smile. The number of smiles that one has in their day-to-day life indicates how successful one is.


You may have a big bank balance, a lot of money. But, if you can’t smile, if you are tensed, upset and angry, would you call such a person successful?
Someone who is unfriendly, tensed, worried, can’t sleep, can’t even eat because of cholesterol, diabetes; would you call him a successful person?
Often, people spend half of their health to gain their wealth. Then they spend half their wealth, to gain back their health (which does not come). This is not a sign of success. To me, a sign of success is confidence. Even if you lose everything, if you have confidence, then you can recreate everything again, and that is success.
There are ample of examples. There are businessmen, who rose to the top, and with one uncalculated movement, they lost it all. They came way down, and still, they built their businesses again.
You can see this in the Sindhi community; they were living in Karachi with such comforts. Similarly, the Kashmiri pundits in the valley had huge bungalows, apple gardens, saffron gardens; suddenly, they had to leave everything.
The same with the Asian migrants from Uganda, they had nothing when they left the country. Generations together lived in Uganda, and owned big factories. One fine morning, they had to leave the country with one suitcase.
I met a Gujarati gentleman in London. This man had a huge television factory, about 15 to 20 years ago, in Uganda. He had many Rolls Royce cars, and lived a very comfortable life. One morning, the Asians were asked to leave the country. With just one suitcase, they arrived in London, as refugees. This man and his wife, in their fifties, were selling hot dogs on the streets. He said, ‘Gurudev, we have never worked so hard.’ Look at this!
Now this successful businessman rose again to be an industrialist there. Once you have the zeal, you can gain back the wealth.
The same situation occurred for the Sindhi community. They were rendered as homeless refugees in India after the partition. Today, the Sindhi’s are governing and managing all the wealth, wherever they are. The same with the Kashmiri pundits; they were rendered homeless. Many of them who had the zeal to do business came to Bangalore, Mumbai, Chennai, and started something.
Success is an attitude, it is not a phenomenon.
When you agree to be bogged down, that is the sign of failure. Resist getting bogged down. Just like a candle. You light a candle and turn it upside down, the flame always goes up, and it never goes down. In the same way, if we can have the enthusiasm to say, ‘I can make it, I can rebuild my business’; that is what I would consider a sign of success.

Kiekviena siela šioje žemėje yra dieviška. Tau reikia tai suvokti.

Sveikata nėra vien ligos nebuvimas. Sveikata - tai būti įsitvirtinusiam savyje. Sveikata yra dinamiška gyvenimo išraiška.

Q: If God is omnipresent and one feels strong connection to the Guru, is it still needed to go to temples. What is the significance of rituals?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
See, you do not need to go to any temple, mosques, or churches or anything. Wherever you are, sit and meditate, there you find the presence of the Divine.But rituals are good to have in life; a little bit of them. Not too much.
Without rituals, life becomes a little dry and monotonous. It is the rituals that brings a certain flavor, a certain celebration, a certain color to life. So I would say, we must have some rituals from time to time; it is good.
See, walk into a house where they have no rituals at all, and then walk into a house where everyday they light a lamp, or light an incense stick, and where there is a sanctity; there is a difference in the atmosphere.How many of you have noticed this?
There is a certain difference.It creates a sort of atmosphere.The subtle becomes more alive there, isn’t it?
So a little bit of ritual is good in everyday life. In the morning when you wake up, sit and meditate.Of course you should do pranayama along with meditation.
Even if one person in a house lights a lamp somewhere; everybody does not need to do it, just one person in a home lights a lamp, it enlivens the whole atmosphere.This is what I have seen practically.

"Žmogus žmogiškas tiek, kiek stengiasi pakilti virš prigimties vidinės, tiek gamtinės.

Prigimtis yra dvejopa. Ji apima dėsnius, veikiančius materijos daleles išorėje bei mūsų kūne, ir subtilesnę vidinę prigimtį(pastaroji iš tikrųjų ir lemia išorę).Didinga ir puiku yra įvaldyti išorinę prigimtį, bet dar iškiliau įvaldyti savo vidinę prigimtį. Didinga ir puiku yra išmanyti dėsnius , kurie valdo planetas ir žvaigždes, bet nepalyginamai iškiliau ir puikiau yra permanyti dėsnius, valdančius žmonių aistras, jausmus, valią.
Žmogaus prigimčiai - turiu omeny eilinio žmogaus prigimtį - reikalingi svarūs materialūs faktai. Eiliniam žmogui subtilumas nesuprantamas. Sakoma, kad masės žavisi liūtu , išskerdžiančiu tūkstančius ėriukų, ir nesusimąsto, kad ėriukams tai reiškia mirtį. Masėms suvokiamas tik išorinis malonumas. Bet kiekvienoje visuomenėje egziztuoja grupė, kuriai malonumai siejasi ne su jutimais, o kai kuo auštesniu, kuri patiria aukštesnį, nei materijos lygmenį, ir kuri vis mėgina jį paiekti. Ir jei skaitytume tautų istoriją tarp eilučių, atsektume tokį dėsningumą:
tauta suklęsti, kai tokių žmonių padaugėja; o nuosmukis ateina tada, kai kai begalybės siekio, kad ir kaip beprasmiškai jį vertina utilitaristai, nebelieka.
Taigi galima teigti, kad tautos stiprybė yra dvasingumas, o tautos degradacija prasideda tą dieną, kai dvasingumą pakeičia materializmas."(Sw.Vivekananda)

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Q: Guruji, are desires created, and can they be removed? If so how?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Just look back and reflect on your life from your childhood. You had so many desires back then; some of which you fulfilled and many of which you dropped. You have not been able to fulfil every single desire that has arisen in your head as a child, as a young adult, or as a youth. If it had happened that way, you would have been crazy. You would have been miserable. Thank God that it did not happen. This is why only those things which had to happen started happening to you. All this praise and insult, everything happens only on planet Earth, and we have to face them and move on. Become a strong soul, a strong individual. That is the real strength. Are you able to smile through every event in life? That is the purpose of all this. Can you keep your smile? It is tough, I know, but you need to do it. If you try to run away from anything, it is only going to chase you further. If not in this life, then it will happen in the next life. That is why it is said that just be done with everything which has to happen now, and move on with a big smile, with courage, and with enthusiasm. The bitter experiences that you came across, have given depth to your personality, while the good experiences broadened your personality. So they have all contributed to your life. Good or bad experiences, both should be welcomed, as both make your personality strong. They both contribute to your being in an unimaginable manner. Just know that they are all part of your Sadhana (spiritual practice). So, pleasant experiences are also a part of your Sadhana. The same goes for the unpleasant events that you have gone through. For example, people giving you compliments, or people throwing insults at you are both a part of your Sadhana. In both cases, you become solid, you get centered, and you grow the way you are supposed to grow.

Different karmas will give fruit at different times

Similarly, different karmas will give fruit at different times. Many a times, people ask, "We are so good. Why do bad things happen to good people?" Bad things never happen to good people. Even if it seems to be happening, they were bad at some time. Now they will be good but they have done something bad and so bad is happening. Those seeds, they had sown neem (margosa) seeds long ago and now they have to reap the bitter fruit of the neem tree. Now, they may be sowing mango. They will reap that fruit later. As you sow, so shall you reap.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: See, love and hurt are very close and go hand in hand. When you love someone, then you do get hurt sometimes. It happens this way, and we have to live through it. So do not run away from it. Getting hurt is a part of love. Today somebody came and told me, ‘My son is like this, my son is like that; he is not listening to me.' See, it is only natural. The mother has done so much for the child and when the child does not listen to her at all, she feels so hurt. Naturally, the mother wants the best for her son, while the son thinks he knows what is good for him. So he does not want to listen to the mother. Now, what do you do in this situation? The mother came to me and said, ‘Gurudev, what do you suggest I should do?’ I told her, ‘See, I want the best for everybody. So, I want the best for your son and I want the best for you as well.' To this she replied, ‘But Gurudev, my son listens to you more than me.' I said, 'Now if he listens to me more than you, then it means he knows for sure that Gurudev has no selfish motives and that I will say the right thing.' I told the son, ‘you do what you want.' See, I do not dictate to people, ‘You do this or you do that’. So hurt is indeed a part of love. The pain is inevitable. When there is love, it also sometimes brings pain. But to be afraid of pain and to stop loving, and shutting down completely is foolishness, which a lot of people do. To stop being in love because it hurts at times is not an intelligent decision at all. It is the most foolish thing that one can ever do. But those who sail through that little pinch and move on, will get the real, blissful love..

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: This entire universe is nothing but vibrations. It is all made up of waves, vibrations, and energy. When your vibrations do not match with the vibrations of others you call it negative, and when your vibrations match with other vibrations, it is harmonious and you call it bliss. When your energy becomes such that it becomes universal, then whatever the outer circumstances may be, you remain oblivious to it. We went to Machu Picchu in South America; in Peru, and the people asked me, 'How do you feel the vibrations here? 'I said, 'I do not feel anything', this is because wherever we go we create our own vibrations. So I do not say, ‘Oh, this is negative and that is not.’ Of course, when people are agitating, upset or sad, it definitely creates negative vibrations around you; no doubt. But remember that they are not as powerful as your positive vibrations. It may appear to you that they are over powering, but in reality it is not so.

Jeigu esi nelaimingas, tada net mėnulis tave erzina, sentimentalūs dalykai kelia pasibjaurėjimą, o muzika trukdo. Kai viduje esi ramus ir centruotas, triukšmas tampa muzika, debesys atrodo magiški, o lietus – skaidri meilė.

Tiesiog patyrinėk, dėl ko tu abejoji? Visuomet abejoji dėl ko nors gero savyje ar kituose. Kad imtum pasitikėti, pirmiausia turi suprasti savo abejonę. Abejoji savimi, abejoji žmonėmis aplink save. Tuomet imi abejoti ir Dievo buvimu.

Q: Guruji, What is the secret to make a marriage work?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: I think you are asking a wrong person. You know there was a gentleman here from Germany and a lady from Italy. They both had married several times before. They said Guruji, ‘we seek your blessing that this marriage atleast should work’. I asked that Gentleman whether he knew Italian, he said ‘No’ and I asked whether the lady knew German, she said ‘No’. They both did not know English. Then I told “Don’t learn each other’s language it will work”.

There is proverb in kannada which means ‘Its only with words conflict begin. Its only through words people have fun. Its only through words people gain wealth also. So words should be used sparingly. Usually people when they have misunderstanding they say ‘we will talk it out’. The sit and talk it out does not work at all. We should never talk it out. Just move on, that’s it. Don’t ask any explanation about the past.

Suppose you make a mistake and someone keeps asking for your explanation about the mistake. It will be such a burden to explain your position and justify yourself. Never make others feel guilty. That is very important. Whenever you make others feel guilty, they cease to be your friends somewhere deep inside. That friendship tied bond gets loose.
One secret for women – A lady should never step on the ego of her man. One secret for man – Men should never step on the emotion of his woman. For both of your -Don’t ask for proof of their love. Never give the burden to someone to prove their love. And see if this works.

Kiekvieną rytą pabudęs, pažiūrėk į veidrodį ir padovanok sau didelę šypseną. Šypsena yra šventa gyvenimo dovana.

I would like to add one more thing, as we were talking about thought.
I find that thought is only the gate keeper of the house. Emotion is a little more powerful than thought. You may think, ‘I am happy’, or you may put all your attention towards that thought, but when emotions come, that is it, they just barge in with such force, that all the thought process that you kept with yourself, just disappears.
You know, you will find your emotions are much more powerful than thought. Situations overpower you; though you try to say, ‘I want to be happy’, or, ‘I am happy’, suddenly a bolt of emotions comes, or energy comes and then all these thoughts disappear.
So we need to work on several layers of our life. The first is the environment, then the body, the breath – breath is the link between the mind and the body. Then the mind; thoughts. Then emotions, which are subtler and more powerful that the mind. And then beyond that, the energy field, which is the positivity, the radiance, the soul or spirit that you are, that comes into play.

And all these techniques of meditation, contemplative prayer as in the Christian tradition, or Buddhist Zen meditation, all this is to transcend the thought and reach to that level from where everything runs. And that is like attending to the house owner. Once the house owner is attended to then the guard will listen to what the owner says.